helokity0623
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 | | 01/23/2008 10:18 PM |
 Alert | | I have 2 male black DSH cats. They are both 5 years old and have been together since they were kittens. I am needing to rehome them due to my soon to be husband has allergies to cats and causes him asthma attacks. They are both indoor cats and they have both been nuetered. They are very loving and great around people. There is a rehoming fee of $50.00 for both, as I would perfer for them to stay together. I am including a care package to send home with them that has a litterbox, litter, dry and wetfood plus all of their favorite toys and treats to help make the transition easier for them. If you are able to help out please send me an email at helokity0623@yahoo.com. Thank you so much. | | | |
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Pet Social Worker
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| | 01/24/2008 4:04 PM |
Alert | | All do respect but if your fiance can't allow you to keep the cats that have made a life with you (and you with them) for 5 years then run, run far away. There are meds for allergies & also other environmental things you can do to ease his allergic reactions to cat dandur PLUS, he WILL get used to them. Typically it takes up to 6 mos. or so, but you DO get used to your own pets dandur. Many people think rehoming a pet is easy for the pet. It isn't. It's very stressful for the animal and can lead to anxiety induced negative behaviors, fear & depression for the pet. Rehoming 2 adult cats will not be easy. Our county euthanizes tens of thousands of cats every year because of the pet overpopulation problem. If after reading this you still want to rehome them & are not going to bite my head off or giving my opinion & some basic info. about why I think rehoming them would be a bad thing to do, you can email me at kimberly@houndathome.com and I will post them on PetSocialWorker.org. It's not likely they will find a home quickly, or together, but we can certainly try if you want to. | | | |
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Takingabreak
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| | 01/24/2008 5:28 PM |
Alert | I offered my husband the choice of being with me and the cat or waiting several years until the cat died. He also had asthma triggered by cat dander and dust. He chose me and we made changes on where my cat could go, like not sleeping in the bed anymore and I tried to keep the cat from touching him. The cat lived with him for 10 years before she died. Of course I did not replace the cat out of courtesy for my husband. Husbands come and go, cats stay forever.
Best of luck in dealing with your beloved cats and soon to be husband. | |
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helokity0623
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| | 01/24/2008 6:49 PM |
Alert | | As I understand where you are coming from Pet Social Worker, please understand that my fiance is not making me choose between him and the cats. In fact I took in these 2 cats after my grandmother passed away 8 months ago so that they didnt go to the pound and possibly be put to sleep. I have been with my fiance for the past 5 years and I wish that his asthma wasnt so chronic because I would love to keep the cats cause I know how dear they were to my grandmother. These 2 kittys adjusted quite well into a new home, but unfortunley my fiance asthma has just gotten worse. So I am sure if I could find a good home for them, they should adjust well there too. If you can still help me I would apperciate it. Thank you. | | | |
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TC.
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| | 01/24/2008 9:09 PM |
Alert | I am glad they were your grandmother's cats because I couldn't understand why someone would have cats for five years and then get rid of them for some man. I see now....they weren't yours when they were kittens and she was the one that raised them and loved them. You inherited them and also have the unfortunate luck of falling in love with someone who is allergic to cats.
What a long life living with no animals because your soon to be husband is allergic to them. Personally, I would be thinking twice about marrying him if it were me. If his asthma is as bad as you say it is....can you imagine this being passed onto any children you have with him? Asthma usually runs in the family. My dad had it real bad all his life and both my children had it pretty bad when they were small. They have outgrown it for the most part. My one son was allergic to ONLY short haired dogs. He outgrew that too. We have had cats since my kids were born. Our cats are our family! Children love pets! Tell this man to suck it up and take some allergy medicine.
Kimberly had the best advice....run, run far away!
I feel sorry for the cats and for your grandmother because I am sure they were special to her and she loved them. I truly hope you are blessed enough to find them a wonderful home. Good luck!
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helokity0623
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| | 01/25/2008 9:35 AM |
Alert | | Wow. So I shouldn't marry him because he has asthma and allergies to cats. Thats pretty harsh. You see, I love him for everything that he is, and that includes him having chronic asthma. And yes he has sucked it up and tried medicines to help ease him but unfortunately it didn't help. So please quit judging and if anyone can help us, it would be greatly appreciated. | | | |
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DesertDweller
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| | 01/25/2008 11:01 AM |
Alert | Okay, here's what I learned here today:
Takingabreak: Husbands come and go, cats stay forever.
TC: One should consider marrying someone with allergies because they may propogate in the gene pool.
I thought women were supposed to be the more romantic of the two genders. What happened to love, ladies?  I guess it's a good thing that I am already married and not allergic to anything or I would be in sad shape trying to hook up in this town.
Helokity, good luck finding homes for your cats. If I didn't already have 5 of them, I would have them lounge around our house. There just isn't any more room in the litterbox.
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Pet Social Worker
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| | 01/25/2008 11:06 AM |
Alert | OK, this thread could be heading south fast, so lets cut it off at the pass.
We will be working on getting these cats home(s) soon.
As far as not marrying someone w/ allergies & such.....well, I see it as same as not marrying someone w/ the gene for sickle cell anemia, or w/ a family history of mental illness, or someone who is genetically predisposed to obesity.....to each his own. I'm not going to give my personal beliefs on any of that as it's way off topic, but I'm sure they'd cause some controversey here.
I could not see my life without animals & could not live with someone who could not tolerate them, but not everyone is like me. When my husband and I started dating, he had no pets. I had 2 dogs & 2 cats at the time. I said it's all of us, or none of us. Despite his not being an avid pet lover, he choose all of us. Again, when we started dating, he wanted children - I was on the fence. He said, it's a child, or no marriage. I now have a beautiful 4 year old I could not live without either. We all make consessions. It's just how life it.
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Sinbad
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| | 01/25/2008 11:22 AM |
Alert | LOL....
Name one thread that doesn't go South fast.. LOL
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alanf
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| | 01/25/2008 12:47 PM |
Alert | I retract my remarks. It would drop me into the same category as some others.
Good luck finding a home(s)for these kitties helokity0623. I apologize to you for the coldness of some others. It's too bad that it didn't work out. | | | |
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DesertDweller
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| | 01/25/2008 12:59 PM |
Alert | | Hey, it could be worse. The first time around I married a woman who was allergic -- to me! | |
Stupid should hurt!
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Takingabreak
Posts:284
| | 01/25/2008 3:17 PM |
Alert | DD
Love is before reality sets in. Actuallyl I have been very blessed with a good husband who put up with my cat. Oooh I hope I didn't curse myself.
Helokity, I guess my levity didn't come off as funny as I thought it should. I fully understand your predicament, I'll definitely let my friends know about your cats. Best of luck with the cats and your upcoming marriage. | |
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stinkerbell2
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| | 01/25/2008 5:18 PM |
Alert | I thought you were all joking...but maybe you werent?!?!? IF you were not than DANG you ladies are harsh!!
Good luck with the kitty Cats I already have 2 (and 3 dogs)...MY hubby says IF I come home with one more animal then SOMEONE is going for a ride in the desert!!! | | | |
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TC.
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| | 01/25/2008 7:30 PM |
Alert | DD, You're funny! What I meant, was that I could never live with someone that had allergies so bad that they couldn’t take anything for it to help the symptoms. I couldn't imagine my life without my cats so I couldn't see myself settling for someone that can't be around them either. That would get old!
My husband was never a cat lover and I swear he was so jealous of the cat I had when we first got married. My cat (Casper) has since crossed the Rainbow Bridge and is no longer with us. My husband actually enjoys the cats we have now, but he would never admit to that. He isn't jealous of them like he was with Casper. He has come a long way for someone that never had any house pets.Thankfully, I have never had to choose between the cats and him.
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Java Lover
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| | 01/25/2008 9:19 PM |
Alert | | helokity ~ I can't help with rehoming the kitties, but my husband is going through allergy treatment right now. He's pretty much allergic to everything, yes animals too but we've always had'em. Anyway, he's not doing the shots and it's not going to be quick but if your fiance is interested I can get you the name of the doctor. | | | |
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DesertDweller
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| | 01/25/2008 10:45 PM |
Alert | | One of our five cats has decided that he deserves my attention more than the forum tonight. I type this with him standing over the keyboard. No problem. We signed up for it. I couldn't imagine being without any of them. | |
Stupid should hurt!
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JennyPStefanow
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| | 01/27/2008 12:09 PM |
Alert | "Husbands come and go, cats stay forever." Can I get a HALLELUJAH, lol! Truer words were never spoken. When my ex announced he wanted a divorce, I fought for custody of my kitties. No way was he splitting them up!
Good luck with your kitties...I wish I could take them, but I know my two would object. Plus, I'd really be running the risk of becoming an old lady with a house full of cats  | |
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