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cregan
Posts:15
 | | 07/21/2007 1:17 PM |
 Alert | My baby of 17 yrs 8 months passed away on Tuesday. I never imagined the difficulty of loosing my loved one. I just have to express my love for him. I am so glad that Cedrick and I had this strong connection. I now realized that he was here to take care of me - he was such an influence in my life.
Cedrick has a brother of 12 yrs. We had lost Meow at the beginning of 2007 and with all of your support, Meow came home. Thank you. The lost of our loved Cedrick is so difficult on Meow. I can see that he is so sad. Last night I was at the computer and I have a great picture of Cedrick on my desktop. Meow almost jump at the screen out of joy but realized that it wasn't physically Cedrick. His reaction was so beautiful and sad. I am not ready to adopt a fur ball. I have this guilt of cheating on my soul mate and afraid of loosing memories. For Meow, he needs a friend.
Would it be ok to be a foster cat parent? Or is it too soon ... does Meow need longer to grieve or does he need his species to interact with? How do you become a foster parent?
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| | demonica
Posts:850
| | 07/21/2007 1:57 PM |
Alert | | i think it is wonderful that you are considering fostering until you are ready for another permanent relationship. i'm pretty sure that having another cat would be good for meow, but you won't know until you try. pet social worker may be a resource for you on finding a foster, or call the animal shelter. my feeling is that with kitties, most foster situations are for kittens that need more care (ie very young ones that need bottle fed or ones that need medical maintenance) than they can be given at a shelter, but you never know until you ask. | | | |
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| | Pet Social Worker
Posts:0
| | 07/22/2007 9:36 AM |
Alert | I am truly orry for your loss.
Fostering is definitely a good idea for you & for Meow. Know that it's sometimes difficult for adult cats to be open to the idea of having another cat in the house. It may take weeks or even months for them to become tolerant of each other and maybe more time for them to be social w/ each other. Sometimes it's easier to bring in a kitten w/ an adult cat.
There are TONS of rescues looking for fosters. | | | |
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| | TC.
Posts:0
| | 07/24/2007 9:18 AM |
Alert | Cregan....I am sorry you lost your most favorite baby. He sure lived a long life. We can all only hope for that.
About ten years ago, I lost the love of my life. He was almost 17 when he passed away. He had diabetes for his last 7 years. When he died his doctor cried with us. He said, "Casper lived on love alone."
My cat Casper, loved my son who was only 4 yrs old at the time. The day he passed away was easier than I thought it would be. I knew he lived as long as he could. He couldn't give us another day and his time with us was over. I was thankful that his life wasn't cut short by an untreatable disease or by being hit by a car, etc. The end was peaceful!
He adored my son and he was completely devastated without his Casper. They would sleep together holding hands. Our house was so lonely and sad without him. My sister found us two white kittens where she lived. They filled the house with joy, but we would never forget our special Casper.
We lost both of those kitties at the ages of 5 and 7. They died from thrombosis. They were brothers and both had it. Losing them at a young age was far worse than losing Casper. Their lives were cut short and we felt cheated. We found another white cat and he also had a brother so once again, we ended up with a pair (Marti and Aspen). We lost one of them (Marti) when he was 8 months old to another inherited disease. I was done! Losing him did me in! He felt like my Casper. I thought my Casper had been reincarnated because I had never stopped missing him. I felt like I had lost him twice.
Now Aspen was alone and we were gone for most of the day. I felt sorry for him. I wasn't ready to get another cat because losing 3 cats in 1 1/2 years was far more than I could handle. We eventually got another kitten. My other son took ownership of him. So now, they both had their cats and we were all fighting over them at bedtime.
Casper's B-Day is on August 3rd. Last year on his birthday, I was depressed. (This is nine years later). So Cedrick will not leave your memory or your heart....I promise! So last Aug-3, I came on here and someone had posted that they had 5 white kittens......Not good! Of course, I just went to look because to find 5 white kittens was a jackpot when they are not that easy to come by. I thought I had won the lottery sitting in a room with 5 white cats. I couldn't decide which one to take. I left with only one and he is an angel. He is my baby and now we each have our own. He is really special and brings much joy to my heart. He isn't Casper, but I think we only get that lucky once. He is in our home and happy with his brothers. I will be happy to get 17 years out of him, but I know there is no guarantee so I just love him everyday that I am lucky enough to have him. He keeps his brothers active as all they do is chase each other. So he has been great for their exercise program. The second cat (Nez) is too fat so Santiago runs him daily to try and slim him down.
There is no guarantee how long our pets live. We love them each day and only hope for at least 17 years. So you were blessed to have Cedrick that long.
It sounds like Cedrick gave you all he could and all he had. Someone once told me, "The best way to honor your cat is to rescue another one."
I would be lying if I told you it is an instant cure for your pain and loss. It isn't! It just helps fill the void. Also, nothing can bring a smile to your face quicker than watching the funny things kittens do. When you have older cats you tend to forget the energy kittens have. I think a kitten will be more accepted by Meow than trying to bring in an older cat.
I think you need to adopt a pair of kittens. Meow is 12 years old. If you adopt one you will be facing this dilemma in another five years or so. At least the pair will have each other. I think it is pretty hard on the animals as well when their friend passes away.
My oldest son keeps a picture of him and Casper together on his nightstand.....he too, will keep Casper forever in his heart!
Casper crossed the Rainbow Bridge in 1996. He gets to chase butterflies and sleep in tall, green grass. He no longer has to take his insulin shots every day of his life. He was so handsome.....he probably even has a girlfriend.
I hope this helps and I hope you and Meow adopt a new kitty to love :-)
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| | Java Lover
Posts:0
| | 07/24/2007 10:05 AM |
Alert | | I'm so sorry for your loss. Give yourself and Meow time. It took about a week for all of our pets to start coming out of their funk after we lost Vanity last year. My DH finally told me that I needed to try and move on so they could to. It was hard but as I delt with it so were the animals able to. Finally about 6 months later we adopted 2 kitties, it's the only time that I sobbed while leaving the adoption center, so many emotions. God bless you all. | | | |
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| | cregan
Posts:15
| | 07/25/2007 4:48 PM |
Alert | Thank you for all the kind words. It was a week yesterday and I got home and my reaction was to go see now Cedrick is doing. I miss him ...
Meow has been so sad and it's difficult. We made the decision to get a new family member for Meow and us. Of course, we will wait a few months. Just writing this I get tears (feeling guilty). I'm currently doing my professional exam and should have completed by next month. I am looking forward to accumulate all the picture from my baby and memories to make a booklet. When I first got Cedrick (at 10 yrs, me) my dad's friend too a nice picture of Cedrick and made it a poster like photo. It looks so nice and I am so thankful
TC, thank you so much for sharing your story. You wrote a beautiful and touching story. yes I cried but it was so good to read your story. Is your Icon a picture of Casper? I read the Rainbow Bridge story and it acutally made me happy to know that they are well and waiting for us 
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|  | stickbd
Posts:5
| | 07/25/2007 5:09 PM |
Alert | I am so sorry for your loss, i understand completely, as do many animal lovers. My dog died last fall after 17 1/2 years. Her breed should have only lived to about 10-12 years old, so she, too lived soley because i needed her and she loved me. My cat had died a few years before that, but some angel sent my cat back right as my dog was dying to care for me in her place. I brought her in and it was instant mutual love. She is the reincarnation of my old cat, and she allowed my dog to die knowing I would still be looked over.
I am telling you this for a reason. My cat disappeared almost 48 hours ago. I have flyers everywhere and two of us have spent about 16 hours each looking for her. I have other animals, but she is my angel, and I need her.
While looking for her, i found a baby stray kitten, so I rescued her. She's about 5 weeks, and she is ferrel, but she is very young and seems very healthy. She is orange, and I have been told females oranges are rare. She is in my bathroom, and we are acclimatizing her to people so she can be adopted. She will take time, but that is what fostering is about. She hisses when you try and approach her, but the minute you pick her up she just purrs up a storm, and wants nothing other than to be held and cuddled.
After I adopted samantha (my angel), I also adopted another stray just two months ago, and can't afford the third round of shots and getting them fixed, etc.... I am also not ready to replace Samantha, and wouldn't feel right keeping this new kitten. My number is posted on this site for missing cat (Samantha) and found kitten. If you would like to contact me to see the kitten, I would be thrilled for her to go to a good home. As you and she and Meow get accustomed to each other, she will become adpotable if you still can let her go. I want nothing other than a good home for the stray I saved while looking for my missing angel.
Good luck to you in whatever you decide. | | | |
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| | TC.
Posts:0
| | 07/25/2007 10:39 PM |
Alert | Cregan....No, the white cat in the avatar is Aspen. He actually belongs to my 14 yr old son. He loves all of us, but the two of them have something special. It is real funny because I can hardly type this as he is sitting here all sprawled out wanting attention. My son is gone to California for a few weeks so I get Aspen all to myself.
I just know the pain you are experiencing and wanted to tell you how blessed you were to have that many years with your Cedrick. Reading the Rainbow Bridge is comforting :-)
Hang in there! The booklet is a great idea! I have a whole album of Casper from the first day I got him until his last day. I owed it to him to never forget him and I often go through all the pages just to go back in time. He will ALWAYS be the love of my life! | | | |
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| | cregan
Posts:15
| | 07/25/2007 10:44 PM |
Alert | stickbd, thank you for sharing your story. I'm so happy to be talking with people that their babies were so meaningful to them. I miss him so much. Meow was my brother's and we never had separated them, so when I moved Cedrick I moved Meow with us. Cedrick is my baby and I love him unconditionally. Meow is a great kitty ... but didn't know my little needs (affection). In the past few days he has been doing little affection things that Cedrick would do ... it means so much that all these little behaviors are still around. Meow is cute he tries to make me happy. I did open up to the idea that he will be back sometime this idea makes me happy too
stickbd, thank you for the kitty, but I committed to a lady that I would adopt one of her babies when the are ready.
When I lost Meow, I made app 400 flyers, walked and drop it at each house in my neighborhood. Everyone knew about Meow and I was starting to get a lot of calls. People were pointing in the same direction, the park. I bought a cage to catch wild animals, I put fried chicken and left the cage at the park as soon as the sun went down. The fried smell should attract a starved loved one
What neighborhood is Samantha lost in? I really hope you do find her. I don't know if it helped, but I left food by the garage ... it attracted other cats, but I wanted to make sure that he smells food and stays around.
Thank you and keep us posted | | | |
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| | cregan
Posts:15
| | 07/25/2007 10:53 PM |
Alert | TC ... I'm so happy to understand how much love you and Casper had and that you said "I owed it to him to never forget him and I often go through all the pages just to go back in time. He will ALWAYS be the love of my life!" I get really scared when I start studying too much ... I think that I will forget .. but in reality at this time with too much study and emotions I forget a lot and I sound goofy to people but when I take a break I still have tears. I am happy to realize that when I will be done with the current events I will be able to sit and grieve and I am looking forward to Cedrick's book
Aspen is cute | | | |
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| | stickbd
Posts:5
| | 07/25/2007 11:15 PM |
Alert | Thank you so much for your concern. My angel, Samantha is in the Cobblestone Farm area. I have searched for hours the past two days since she has been missing. PLease, if you know anyone in that area, please alert them, you know how much she is missed and needed!
As for you, I understand that you gave your word, and respect that greatly. I hope you and your family get what you need for your heart and mind. I know you will do the right thing, and in your gut you know the right cat at the right time, and I respect that my found kitten is not it. I wish you luck!!
Laura | | | |
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| | TC.
Posts:0
| | 07/25/2007 11:43 PM |
Alert | cregan....I really believe my son keeps Casper's picture by his bed because he was only four when Casper died and he is afraid he too will forget him. One never forgets that kind of love because your heart will remind you.
Get your studies done and when you have more time you will see you will start to heal when you put that booklet together. Focus on your studies because Cedrick is chasing butterflies.
Is that his picture??? If it is, do you know you can make it larger? I am trying to figure out why in the picture, the cat's chin is yellow? Are those yellow feathers? Did he just eat a yellow bird? I want to enlarge the picture because I am so curious.....lol | | | |
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| | cregan
Posts:15
| | 07/27/2007 3:39 PM |
Alert | I don't know how to post pictures ... He is completly black and white. This picture was one of the latest one when he was healthy at 17 years. I love it. He looks happy and curious The yellow feathers could have been a possibility, he loved to eat tweety bird
I took my first of the four section for my exam today. i am so tired ... it is a monster
It's so cute that your son had that connection at 4. It does seem that we met and spend time with people/animals for a reason ... I know Cedrick influenced my life a lot
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