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My3AAAs!
Posts:113
 | | 08/27/2007 10:31 AM |
 Alert | One thing no one ever told me when my husband and I decided to have kids is that we would catch anything and everything they bring home. I swear since having kids, I have not been as sick as I was before we had them! I knew they would get sick as they are trying to build up their immunities as they get exposed to germs for the first time but I didn't think I would catch it! I'ved had years of exposure so I had figured my immunity was pretty good by the time they came around. Not so... Kids have nasty germs! This weekend both kids had the stomach flu and guess what I have today?!? The ever so lovely flu and I am stuck at work! Not that I am surprised I have it since of course my youngest child was throwing up all over me instead of the toilet (another plus to parenthood by the way). Now I love my kids, I can't imagine life without them, and I love sharing my life with them but I am so tired of sharing their colds and flus....
Also, as a side note you do not want to have a comforter set on your bed that is dry clean only when you have young kids. Unfortunately, I learned this the hard way last night as my oldest daughter decided to throw up all over it. I can't wait to see what the dry cleaning bill for this one is going to be....
Nowhere in all the parent books that I had read while I was pregnant with my fist one ever mention this. Nor did any other person I had encountered who had already had kids ever say a word about it. It wasn't until after they were born did other parents come out of the woodworks and talk about this lovely side bonus of parenthood. It was as if they had figured if we knew the real story of parenthood in advance we would not have kids.
So I decided to start this thread for those of you out there who are thinking of having kids or are pregnant with your first. Let's all share with them stuff you will not find in those parent books! | | | |
| | Sinbad
Posts:3046
| | 08/27/2007 10:36 AM |
Alert | Humm.... so far I have nothing..
7 months and I don't have a complaint or a story or anything.
Ohhh wait.. here something..
What they didn't tell me is that I would be able have anymore "ME" time. It's far and few between. But... she is so darn CUTE.... I am thinking of her right now.
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| | "JustJodi"
Posts:617
| | 08/27/2007 11:13 AM |
Alert | | I was not told that KINDERGARTEN would be the HARDEST THING I HAVE EVER GONE THROUGH!!!! | |
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| | demonica
Posts:850
| | 08/27/2007 11:19 AM |
Alert | | i guess i'll go fold up the beautiful dry clean only duvet cover mom gave us...{sigh}. please feel free to share any more words of wisdom you might come up with my3, i'm due in 5 weeks and as they say, forewarned is forearmed. maybe the puppy will at least be completely housebroken before the baby arrives. that would be nice. i think i am losing my mind!!! | | | |
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| | sterlingdreams925
Posts:296
| | 08/27/2007 11:21 AM |
Alert | | OH! Kinder... I remember it well, that first day... it was awful! Balled like a baby. But then again, I also cried just about everyday I had to leave him at pre-school. He never wanted to go, (of course he only did this w/me, not dad!) He would start crying, then I was crying as I walked away-just awful! | | | |
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| | Nickswebcamfriend
Posts:1292
| | 08/27/2007 11:42 AM |
Alert | <That some children take almost 3 FREAKIN years to sleep through the night, while your best friends baby started sleeping through the night at 2 months.
<That if they are going to be sick, it is always either on you or in the car.
<Keep baby wipes EVERYWHERE!!!! Car, Diaper Bag, every bathroom in the house.
<If you don't want them to repeat something - they will. Expecially if it's a bad word. Also, it will always be in front of someone like your mother, or the preschool teacher, or the minister when repeated.
<They can be complete angels all day, but take them into the movies or on a plane and they become the child from hell!!!
<Nanny 911 is a sure fire way to make you feel that much better about YOUR kids!
<They can be totally normal, but once taken to school and you drive 50 miles to work - they end up sick in the nurses office... we are on a first name basis....ugh.
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|  | My3AAAs!
Posts:113
| | 08/27/2007 11:55 AM |
Alert | | Oh and what about the lovely blowouts from the diaper. Everyone told me to carry a change of cloths for the baby where ever you go but I did not hear once about one for me. My oldest one, when she was 2 months old we were in a store with my mom and I was holding the baby. All of a sudden I hear my mom laughing so hard and she had tears rolling down her face. Well what I soon found out quickly is that my daughter had a blow out and poo was running out of her diaper down my shirt and into my purse, which was opened at the time. We were going to run other errands but because I did not have a change of cloths for me, we had to go home first so that I could clean myself up. It was at that point that my mom was like "Dah..why didn't you bring yourself some cloths". You're never told until after the fact and people always act like that was a given and you should have known this piece of information all along. What a mess that one was.... I had loose dollar bills in my purse that I had to clean up. It was nasty! I just took out the stuff that I really needed and threw the purse away. | | | |
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| | leefamily
Posts:0
| | 08/27/2007 11:56 AM |
Alert | No one ever told me that my life would be about negotiating with a 5 year old that still won't sleep through the night.
or that I am totally immune to the stench of poo, I can be puked on and not puke in return, when my son peed on me the first time, I had to remind myself that baby pee is still PEE!
Demonica, you'll learn a lot and you'll learn not to listen to anyone anymore and go with your maternal instincts. But take time for you otherwise you'll go nuts! LOL | | | |
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| | leefamily
Posts:0
| | 08/27/2007 12:01 PM |
Alert | | Or that your life is no longer about you. if you get sick, you still have kiddos to take care of. that was a hard lesson for me! | | | |
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| | My3AAAs!
Posts:113
| | 08/27/2007 12:08 PM |
Alert | I have to second the not sleeping through the night. My first one didn't sleep through the night until she was almost 2 and so far my little one has not slept through the night either and she is just a little over 1. I hear so many people saying how they put their babies down and 7 and they don't get up till 6am and they have been doing that since they were like 5 months old. I think that's got to be a myth or those parents were pulled aside and given some secret trick that I was never given.
Oh and you no longer have any privacy when you go to the bathroom. You will always have an audience. My girls will be totally ignoring me and the second I go into the bathroom, they are both right there trying to climb on me, asking me to get them something, wanting to see what I am doing, turning the lights on and off, etc... If you shut the door and they are not old enough to open it they are banging on the outside screaming like there is no tomorrow. If they can figure out how to open it, they will just open it and walk right in.
It's also so true about being sick and still having to take care of the kids. My husband tries to keep them busy but it always seems that the worst I feel the more they have the need to bounce on my belly! That's why, although I feel horrible right now, I am still at work. No one at my office will be bouncing on my belly. | | | |
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| | cdpedro
Posts:118
| | 08/27/2007 12:08 PM |
Alert | <div class='NTForums_Quote'>Posted By leefamily on 08/27/2007 12:01 PM
Or that your life is no longer about you. if you get sick, you still have kiddos to take care of. that was a hard lesson for me!</div>
Yup, I've got a nasty cold today and would love to crawl in bed and just sleep it off, I would love for that would happen but I know my house would probably burn down.
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| | leefamily
Posts:0
| | 08/27/2007 12:19 PM |
Alert | Oh the bathroom thing really gets me!!! Or how about when everything is quiet, kids are playing nicely and you make a phone call. Then all hell breaks loose and you're sure they're killing eachother and you just really wanted to chat with your best friend!
I got lucky with my 5 month old. He sleeps through the night, I don't know how I did it, but I am not having any more kids to figure it out!!! | | | |
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| | Judit
Posts:200
| | 08/27/2007 1:14 PM |
Alert | They will get sick when you have playgroup coming up ( SO you can not go out to socialize), or if you have an appointment, and Of course nobody can babysit cause the baby is sick, so it is not safe w/ other kids.
They eat nicely at home, but when you go out to a restaurant, they will be little evils.
As soon as you change their pee pee diaper, they will have a poopy one. <img src='http://www.85239.com/desktopmodules/ntforums/images/emoticons/smile.gif' height='20' width='20' border='0' title='Smile' align='absmiddle'>
THey are angels with other ppl, but with me they feel like they HAVE to be right next to me for every second, otherwise they will scream.
When they are little they will spit up on you right when you changes into something clean!
My3AAA: My son is 15 mos now, he is been sleeping through the nights since 6mos or so. ( 7pm-7:30am!!!) Not to brag, but it RELLY IS A NICE BREAK!!!!
I can tell you my secret <img src='http://www.85239.com/desktopmodules/ntforums/images/emoticons/smile.gif' height='20' width='20' border='0' title='Smile' align='absmiddle'> <img src='http://www.85239.com/desktopmodules/ntforums/images/emoticons/wink.gif' height='20' width='20' border='0' title='Wink' align='absmiddle'>
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| | demonica
Posts:850
| | 08/27/2007 3:11 PM |
Alert | this is from another forum i am active on:
My little guy, Cade, is quite a talker. He loves to communicate
does it quite well. He talks to people constantly, whether we're
in The library, the grocery store or at a drive-thru window.
People often comment on how clearly he speaks for a
just-turned-3-year-old. And You never have to ask him to turn up
the volume. It's always fully cranked.
There're been several embarrassing times that I've wished the
meaning of his words would have been masked by a not-so-audible
voice, but never have I wished this more than last week at Costco.
Halfway, through our shopping trip, nature called, so I took Cade
with me into the Restroom.
If you'd been one of the ladies in the restroom that evening, this
is what you would have heard coming from the second to the last
stall:
"Mommy, are you gonna go potty? Oh! Why are you putting toiwet
paper on The potty, Mommy? Oh! You gonna sit down on da toiwet
paper now? Mommy, what are you doing? Mommy, are you gonna go
stinkies on the potty?"
At this point I started mentally counting how many women had been
in The bathroom when I walked in. Several stalls were full ... 4?
5? Maybe we could wait until they all left before I had to make
my debut out of this stall and reveal my identity. Cade continued,
"Mommy, you ARE going stinkies aren't you? Oh, dats a good girl,
Mommy! Are you gonna get some candy for going stinkies on the
potty? Let me see doze stinkies, Mommy!
Oh ... Mommy! I'm trying to see in dere. Oh! I see dem. Dat is a
very good girl, Mommy. You are gonna get some candy! I heard a few
faint chuckles coming from the stalls on either side of me.
Where is a screaming new born when you need her? Good grief. This
was really getting embarrassing. I was definitely waiting a long
time before exiting. Trying to divert him, I said, "Why don't you
look in Mommy's purse and see if you can find some candy. We'll
both have Some!" "No, I'm trying to see doze more stinkies. Oh!
Mommy!" He started to gag at this point. "Uh oh, Mommy. I fink I'm
gonna frow up. Mommy,doze stinkies are making me frow up!! Dat is
so gross!!" As the gags became louder, so did the chuckles outside
my stall. I quickly flushed the toilet in hopes of changing the
subject. I began to reason with myself:
OK. There are four other toilets. If I count four flushes, I can
be reasonably assured that those who overheard this embarrassing
monologue will be long gone. "Mommy! Would you get off the potty,
now? I want you to be done going stinkies! Get up! Get up!" He
grunted as he tried to pull me off. Now I could hear full-blown
laughter. I bent down to count the feet outside my door. "Oh, are
you wooking under dere, Mommy? You wooking under DA door? What
were you wooking at, Mommy? You wooking at the wady's feet?"More
laughter.I stood inside the locked door and tried to assess the
situation."Mommy, it's time to wash our hands, now. We have to go
out now, Mommy." He started pounding on the door. "Mommy, don't
you want to wash your hands? I want to go out!!" I saw that my
"wait 'em out" plan was unraveling. I sheepishly opened The door,
and found standing outside my stall, twenty to thirty ladies
crowded around the stall, all smiling and starting to applaud. My
first thought was complete emabarassment, then I thought, "Where's
the fine print on the motherhood contract' where I signed away
every bit of my dignity and privacy?" But as my little boy gave me
a big, cheeky grin while he rubbed bubbly soap between his chubby
little hands, I thought, I'd sign it all away again, just to be known as
Mommy to this little fellow. | | | |
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| | demonica
Posts:850
| | 08/27/2007 3:15 PM |
Alert | | BTW- i already have given up all bathroom privacy. unless i make sure to tightly latch the bathroom door, i have 2 little pitty faces staring at me every time i go. the puppy comes and flops down on my feet sometimes, actually. i guess he is making sure i don't catch a chill here in AZ august! | | | |
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| | My3AAAs!
Posts:113
| | 08/27/2007 3:18 PM |
Alert | | Demonica - LOL. The things that come out or their mouths! | | | |
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| | Cruzin
Posts:136
| | 08/27/2007 3:52 PM |
Alert | | Both of my kids started sleeping 12 hours at 7 mo. Nobody told me that they would quit doing it at 2 yrs old. DD went through it for 2 mo at 2.5 and now DS has been up every night since May and he is 2.5. | | | |
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| | sjtrim
Posts:388
| | 08/28/2007 12:26 AM |
Alert | - No one told me how hard it would be to send kids to school the first time. I cried for days when my oldest started going all day. When my youngest one started I was a mess for a long time. It was so weird not having kids around me all day.
- No one told me how certain words kids say would sound like something else. My oldest pronounced truck like fr*** and he was pretty loud too. I couldn't go in the truck area in a toy store cause he'd start yelling it and reach out for one. People probably wondered what I was teaching my child.
- No one told me how hard it may be to have more children after having two. Now I see my kids getting older and it breaks my heart to feel that I'm not done yet, but yet I'm unable to have more kids for now. They are both in school full time and I miss them.
- They grow fast and people did tell me that. I didn't believe them but it's really true. Cherish the times you have with them when they are young. Don't be in a hurry to send them off to school. There are certain times that you can't get back when they get older. For example, I used to have a zoo membership. My kids loved it when they were little and we went there all the time just to look at the animals and walk around. I don't have one anymore cause now that they are in school we never have time to go and I don't get my monies worth. I have some great pictures of them at the zoo!
- No one told me how hard it would be to see your child in pain. When they got their immunizations and cried from it, I would cry too. My youngest had a cyst removed above his eyebrow when he was one. I cried then too cause he was in a lot of pain after. Then he got a cut on his head and had stitches just a year ago and again, I cried. My oldest had chicken pox when he was one and he was in pain from that so yes you guessed it, I cried. Sometimes there isn't a lot you can do when they are in pain and they don't understand. I feel helpless at those times.
- No one ever told me how great a hug from your child would feel after having a bad day. That is the best reward ever!  | |
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| | sjtrim
Posts:388
| | 08/28/2007 12:29 AM |
Alert | Okay demonica, that story is HILARIOUS! Glad that never happened to me! LOL!
And yes I agree that watching Nanny 911 makes me feel like my children are ANGELS compared to some of those kids on that show. | |
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| | demonica
Posts:850
| | 08/28/2007 8:35 AM |
Alert | | you guys all rock. i love hearing mommies talk about their kids. sjtrin, i started crying reading about you crying when your kids are in pain. i get so scared sometimes. this is such a big deal, caring for this person inside of me. and it is such a bigger deal once he comes out. i get so afraid that i will do something horribly wrong. i think about awful things sometime. what if he dies? how will i ever bear it? i don't know why i think like that. i try not too. damn it, i'm bawling my eyes out and can't see the f@#$ing screen! | | | |
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