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"JustJodi"
Posts:616
 | | 07/31/2007 1:07 PM |
 Alert | | So my daughter will be 5 soon and is hopefully starting kinder. She is VERY bright and personable but has pretty much done EVERYTHING with me. She has NEVER been with a non family sitter and will play at a friends house if I am there. JUST NOW a very good friend came to take her to her house and the second she saw her she FREAKED, even though she was sooo excited about going to play! I know it is my fault for not having her in any type of school, however she is socialized. I am just feeling very concerned!! | |
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| | Fritzydoodle
Posts:959
| | 07/31/2007 1:20 PM |
Alert | You will be more traumatized than she will when the time comes. If possible, take her to meet the teacher and tour the room/school prior to school starting. When school starts, take her to her classroom, kiss her goodbye and tell her you'll see her in a few hours and leave. Do not turn around, do not bend to her wishes to stay, hugs etc - just leave. If she sees you, the crying and pleading will continue. Kindergarten teachers handle this every year. She'll cry and fuss a bit and then get distracted and play with the other kids. This may go on for a few days and she'll be fine.
Keep in touch with the teacher and you'll see - after a couple of days she'll be off to school with nary a thought of leaving you for a few hours. It will be you suffering more than her. | |
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| | "JustJodi"
Posts:616
| | 07/31/2007 1:24 PM |
Alert | | That is JUST what happened, one more hug and screaming then just one more hug. My friend finally just told me to go, grabbed her and put her in her seat, by the time I hit the front door I heard no more crying. I just called and she is FINE!!! | |
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| | "JustJodi"
Posts:616
| | 07/31/2007 1:25 PM |
Alert | | It has been 4 years of just the 2 of us at home all day, and I do not drive so we have been together at home ALOT! I am going to go crazy but she is SOOOOO READY!! | |
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| | YZRacer
Posts:1580
| | 07/31/2007 2:01 PM |
Alert | When my daughter was 3, I went back to school and she went to a daycare/preschool program. I was worried that she'd freak out. We got there for the first day and she ran right in, not a "bye mom" or anything. I asked her for a hug goodbye, and she said she was "too busy" to give me one. I bawled like a baby, and she was totally fine!
Now, she is starting Kinder this year, and again, I have the same fears (we only made it 2 months in that program, long story). But I know it will be me crying on Aug 13, not her. She asks every day if she gets to go to school today, and is upset when I tell her no.
She will be just fine, Don't worry | |
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| | Fritzydoodle
Posts:959
| | 07/31/2007 2:09 PM |
Alert | Just wait... one day very soon she is going to cry and throw a temper tantrum when it's time to come home!
"NO... I want to stay... I don't want to go home..."
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|  | "JustJodi"
Posts:616
| | 07/31/2007 2:19 PM |
Alert | | Thanks guys. I am FREAKED!! | |
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| | Fritzydoodle
Posts:959
| | 07/31/2007 2:24 PM |
Alert | | Do you have other children at home? If not - perhaps you could volunteer a few hours at her school? NOT in her classroom however. This will give you something to do and help you get used to the separation. | |
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| | "JustJodi"
Posts:616
| | 07/31/2007 2:29 PM |
Alert | | Nope just her, I am hoping to find a little part time job with GROWN UPS!! LOL I am in desperate need of grown up interaction!!! I have not had a job since Aug of 2002! | |
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| | Fritzydoodle
Posts:959
| | 07/31/2007 2:30 PM |
Alert | | VERY good idea! Mommytime is important. | |
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| | *rikimaru*
Posts:464
| | 07/31/2007 9:13 PM |
Alert | i know jodi&she is a great mom/friend, her DD is indeed very bright and i think she is gonna do just great in kinder, i am very proud&impressed with her plus she is a great friend to my DS&DD who love to hang out with them.
i do think what jodi is going through is definately a female emotion, cuz i dropped my DS off at pre k last yr and said see ya later and he was fine with that. somehow i think us dads just think differently about kids, i wonder how being a SAHD will affect them in the long run vs my DW taking care of things? | |
listened for, they cannot be heard;looked for, they cannot be seen; felt for, they cannot be touched: old ninja proverb | |
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| | MommaToni
Posts:1045
| | 07/31/2007 10:09 PM |
Alert | Jodi,
My daughter is going on 3 and I started her in the summer camp at Little U because she was asking to go to school like all the other kids. We had NEVER been apart. NO sitter, NO daycare, I am in the Moms club and have many friends with kids and have had her in Momy & me classes so she is socialized but but never been without me. We joke around and call her my Polly Pocket =)
I was sooooo nervous! The first day she was okay, I sat outside in the hallway for about 45 minutes until I reluctantly went home and wandered around lost with out her..haha
The next day she screamed since she realized I was leaving so I stayed for a bit and then left. She has gone 2 days a week for 3 hours/ day for the last 2 months and some days are better than others. We still have some break downs, she would love for me to stay and misses me when I am gone but is so happy when I get her and loves to tell me about her day and talks about her teacher and all her friends. It's really cute watching them say "hi" and "bye" to each other. I am sure with time I will be able to leave her without a fuss or a " stay just 2 more minutes" but I take comfort in knowing that she likes it there, they treat her well, she is among friends, and is having fun.
It's really heartbreaking to hear them cry fro you... I was not the only teary mom there! But, it is only short lived. Once they get occupied with something else they are fine.
Good luck! | |
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| | "Miss Kerry"
Posts:316
| | 07/31/2007 11:25 PM |
Alert | Oh Jodi! That Mummy guilt is a very powerful thing isn't it? You have a few weeks until school starts right? Please bring Jordan over here and arrange as many play dates as you can with Avery, so that you can start that transition now. Separation anxiety is very emotional and distressing - for you and your child!
You may also want to cross off the days on the calendar to count down the time and that will help prepare her. Emphazise what a big girl she is, prepare her emotionally by talking about all the wonderful things that she will do in Kindergarten, the new friends that she will make, and how lovely her teacher is going to be. AND that you will always come back - later. Try really hard not to tranfer your anxiety to her - you know that she picks up on things like that.
This is a very difficult stage to go through for us Mum's, we have to rely on the fact that we have taught them well so far and give them the opportunity to spread their wings a little bit. Which is so worrying because, we won't be there to catch them if they fall, which is heart breaking!! I am going through it myself as well, with Joshua just starting Kindergarten this week - it really is an adjustment for everyone!
I think that we should all have a group hug!! | |
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| | MOB_Style
Posts:827
| | 08/01/2007 8:19 AM |
Alert | <div class='NTForums_Quote'>Posted By "JustJodi" on 07/31/2007 1:24 PM
That is JUST what happened, one more hug and screaming then just one more hug. My friend finally just told me to go, grabbed her and put her in her seat, by the time I hit the front door I heard no more crying. I just called and she is FINE!!!</div>
I have that issue with my youngest..lol Now that they came back from Michigan so both of them are doing. Its hard the first few times but after a while they'll be fine.
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| | "JustJodi"
Posts:616
| | 08/01/2007 9:26 AM |
Alert | | Thank you! I have such great friends!! | |
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| | C-Dub
Posts:46
| | 08/01/2007 9:50 AM |
Alert | My son didn't have any issues when he went off to Pre-K. However my Dear sweet Princess almost had a meltdown. 2 days of screaming "DON'T LEAVE ME!!!" But...on the third day, ran for the gate at Pima Butte and never looked back.
Riki...working at home, so I know the SAHD feelling sometimes. | | | |
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| | Rollergirl
Posts:70
| | 08/01/2007 11:08 AM |
Alert | | My baby is not even one yet and I am already sad for the day she will leave me for kinder! | | | |
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