camashkai3
Posts:120
 | | 07/21/2007 12:13 PM |
 Alert | | So my little boy was told last night that he could go to a friend's house if he comes by himself. Mama ain't no fool, but I can't believe this was even requested! | |
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demonica
Posts:850
| | 07/21/2007 2:04 PM |
Alert | | how old is your little one? | | | |
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camashkai3
Posts:120
| | 07/21/2007 2:27 PM |
Alert | | He's eight, but just for that to be said at all really freaks me out. That and honestly - I don't trust this woman as far as I can throw her. She has been caught in lie after lie after lie... | |
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demonica
Posts:850
| | 07/21/2007 3:10 PM |
Alert | | yeah, that would throw up some red flags for me, no matter what the age, i guess. my guess is there is something going on in that house they don't want any other adults to see. | | | |
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TMarie
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| | 07/21/2007 3:20 PM |
Alert | Ah yeah..major red flags there. And, its not like you WANT to be there hovering over him while he is there, but the fact that that statment was even issued before hand is a little worrisome.
Obviously this person wants to get caught in something because why would they even say that...get what I am getting at? Any smart person that didn't want to get caught in something would have said: "sure joey, you can come over anytime"...they wouldn't add "but you have to come alone"...
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maricopamommy1
Posts:552
| | 07/21/2007 3:21 PM |
Alert | | Go with your gut instincts if you feel something isnt right its probably for a reason. | |
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camashkai3
Posts:120
| | 07/21/2007 4:44 PM |
Alert | <div class='NTForums_Quote'>Posted By TMarie on 07/21/2007 3:20 PM
Ah yeah..major red flags there. And, its not like you WANT to be there hovering over him while he is there, but the fact that that statment was even issued before hand is a little worrisome.
Obviously this person wants to get caught in something because why would they even say that...get what I am getting at? Any smart person that didn't want to get caught in something would have said: "sure joey, you can come over anytime"...they wouldn't add "but you have to come alone"...
Hmmm..weird. </div>
Exactly TMarie... I wouldn't have gone over there except to drop him off but for that to have been said before it was even implied that I might go with him really left a bad taste in my mouth.
MaricopaMommy - I wasn't going to let him go over there don't worry! =) I just needed to vent about it because it really just strikes me as odd... | |
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Urban Cowgirl
Posts:209
| | 07/21/2007 5:34 PM |
Alert | My son wanted to play with neighbor kids, but my gut said no and I'd never met the parents, so I said they could play here. They lived in the house in the Villages that just had the early morning DEA drug bust. Your gut is right!
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myuhas
Posts:16
| | 07/21/2007 8:37 PM |
Alert | | Oh wow, that is scary. Are you sure they did not mean no other siblings or friends, but parents are ok? I hope nothing bad is going on there. That would bring out the red flags for me too! | |
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MommaToni
Posts:1045
| | 07/21/2007 9:41 PM |
Alert | It sounds that you guys have had issues in the past (the "busted in lie after lie" thing)
Could it be they just didn't want to be around you?
I would never let my child go anywhere where I didn't have access to. Good call. | |
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camashkai3
Posts:120
| | 07/21/2007 10:23 PM |
Alert | | That's part of it MommaToni, but there's so much behind it. One thing is that she has made accusations towards other people's children that have come over to her house unsupervised and I don't want her to have the same opportunity to smear some filthy rumor about my son. Another part of it is up till last night I had been able to curb my kid's wanting to go over to their house with a lot of minor excuses. She had the audacity to go up to them at a bookstore and tell him how much she missed him and that if he ever wanted to come over he could, but by himself. So I finally had to tell them what some of the reasons were that we really couldn't go over there. I was steaming!!! Thanks for hearing me out... | |
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Azgram01
Posts:284
| | 07/24/2007 5:52 AM |
Alert | RED flags for sure.
It sure sounds as if something is not right in that house !
I would be very concerned about any child going into that house.
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JoshMoni
Posts:78
| | 07/24/2007 12:34 PM |
Alert | | Cannot believe it! as everybody said before that is a RED FLAG... my heart will drop if someone tells that to my kid. Good thing your kid told you that... is good when kids can trust their parents... | | | |
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justhadtocomment
Posts:1
| | 07/24/2007 2:55 PM |
Alert | | I wouldn't trust ANYONE including relatives that invited my child without talking to me first. Especially one that young. | | | |
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Sinbad
Posts:3046
| | 07/24/2007 3:16 PM |
Alert | FLAG!!!!!
I would have to meet the parents first. | |
Just doing it one day at a time. Change is good and it should be looked upon as an improvment! not a problem.
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momof2boys
Posts:75
| | 07/25/2007 8:16 AM |
Alert | | I agree with everyone else. Something weird is going on with saying that he has to come alone. That would pretty much end that one for me for sure! Before my kids go play at a new friends house, I get on the phone and speak with the parent. Usually you can get a vibe by just talking over the phone. Then, when I drop them off, I meet the parent face to face, and I go inside for a few minutes to make sure the kids are okay. A friend of mine told me that I am just paranoid and over reacting, but that's fine with me. In this day in age, you cannot trust someone just because they have kids your age. I'll gladly risk looking paranoid and untrusting if it means that I know who my kids are playing with and where. | | | |
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Sinbad
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| | 07/25/2007 8:20 AM |
Alert | Nope MOMO.. that's what you should do.. It's all good.
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demonica
Posts:850
| | 07/30/2007 6:11 PM |
Alert | | so then i come to find out that the original poster was rather disingenuous with her post. by reading it i, along with others here, assumed that this was a new friend, family and mom saying this about the child coming over alone. the OP has not corrected this misconception anywhere in this thread, even after it has become clear that this is how so many of us read it. i find it interesting that i have recently found out that the mommy who said the child could come over to play alone was a very close friend of the original poster. they have had a falling out. whatever. these things happen. i understand you are upset that you are no longer welcome in that house. i also understand if you do not want you child over there. but it was bad enough putting your kids in the middle, now you are going to put all of us in the middle with half information? dirty pool. you should be ashamed of yourself! | | | |
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TheBoymaker
Posts:787
| | 07/30/2007 10:18 PM |
Alert | <b>That and honestly - I don't trust this woman as far as I can throw her. She has been caught in lie after lie after lie...
One thing is that she has made accusations towards other people's children that have come over to her house unsupervised and I don't want her to have the same opportunity to smear some filthy rumor about my son. Another part of it is up till last night I had been able to curb my kid's wanting to go over to their house with a lot of minor excuses. She had the audacity to go up to them at a bookstore and tell him how much she missed him and that if he ever wanted to come over he could, but by himself.</b>
Demonica, the above quotes are verbatim from C's posts. There is no inference that they didn't know one another. Your accusation against her is baseless. In fact it is quite clear that there was a relationship when it was mentioned that her son was missed by this woman.
I don't have anything else to add even though I know the story and saw it unfold. I have been in similar situations and complete termination of all contact is the only answer if there is no chance of trust being rebuilt. As for kids, they recover and move on if treated with honesty and patience.
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