JonAndAshly
Posts:236
 | | 07/30/2007 9:59 AM |
 Alert | | I am new to Maricopa, well Arizona too. I am 21 and going through a divorce, yep fun fun. I have a 3 year old boy and a soon to be 2 year old girl. I am looking for other younger single moms who maybe want to get together for play dates or to go out for the evening. I am not much of a drinker and I dont really like to party. But if you are in the same boat that I am and would like to hang out then send me a message. Maybe we can talk about how we hate men and they are the root of all evil, Just kidding guys, just some of you are. | | | |
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caveman
Posts:1212
| | 07/30/2007 10:01 AM |
Alert | | You have come to the right town!!!! Maricopa is full of single mothers. You will truly be in paradise. | | | |
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Sinbad
Posts:3052
| | 07/30/2007 10:33 AM |
Alert | LOL caveman... just lol.
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Just doing it one day at a time. Change is good and it should be looked upon as an improvment! not a problem.
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JonAndAshly
Posts:236
| | 07/30/2007 11:20 AM |
Alert | | Well I can see why. Its affordable housing. Which is much needed when your husband says "Oh honey I would much rather have you stay at home with the children" so you dont work for 3 years and then all of a sudden he leaves you with nothing to go off and do the same thing to his new girlfriend <img src='http://www.85239.com/desktopmodules/ntforums/images/emoticons/smile.gif' height='20' width='20' border='0' title='Smile' align='absmiddle'> | | | |
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Cobblestone Guy
Posts:53
| | 07/30/2007 11:26 AM |
Alert | I'm so sorry to hear that. Good luck in your endeavor. I'd offer to have my kids play with yours, but I'm not much in the mood to hear how evil I am. | | | |
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anewman
Posts:670
| | 07/30/2007 2:29 PM |
Alert | <div class='NTForums_Quote'>Posted By Cobblestone Guy on 07/30/2007 11:26 AM
I'm so sorry to hear that. Good luck in your endeavor. I'd offer to have my kids play with yours, but I'm not much in the mood to hear how evil I am. <img src='http://www.85239.com/desktopmodules/ntforums/images/emoticons/wink.gif' height='20' width='20' border='0' title='Wink' align='absmiddle'></div>
Same here. I have to deal with this from my sons mom and she is the one that left and got the house. Go Figure?? <img src='http://www.85239.com/desktopmodules/ntforums/images/emoticons/angry.gif' height='20' width='20' border='0' title='Angry' align='absmiddle'>
Anyways - welcome to Az and to Maricopa.
Just don't hate us all too much okay? We are sensitive too <img src='http://www.85239.com/desktopmodules/ntforums/images/emoticons/tongue.gif' height='20' width='20' border='0' title='Tongue' align='absmiddle'>
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Colgate
Posts:642
| | 07/30/2007 3:05 PM |
Alert | <div class='NTForums_Quote'>Posted By JonAndAshly on 07/30/2007 9:59 AM
I am new to Maricopa, well Arizona too. I am 21 and going through a divorce, yep fun fun. I have a 3 year old boy and a soon to be 2 year old girl. I am looking for other younger single moms who maybe want to get together for play dates or to go out for the evening. I am not much of a drinker and I dont really like to party. But if you are in the same boat that I am and would like to hang out then send me a message. Maybe we can talk about how we hate men and they are the root of all evil, Just kidding guys, just some of you are. </div>
Welcome to the Copa and AZ. What about the older single mom's who are over their bitterness?! HAHA! Check with some of the local churches they sometimes offer a program called Divorce Care or DC Group! I was in one 5 years ago after my separation and the group was a God send!!! I met so many good quality friends both men and women with kids! It touches on topics such as finance, managing children being single, anger, depression, starting over and the whole nine yards! It is a great healing program and gives you an opportunity to meet people who share things in common with you and may have kids for playdates. Men also benefit from the program, heck two of my friends connected after completing the 13 week session. They have been married now for 3 years! Guys your not to blame either it takes two!!! Good luck and if you have any ? PM me. | |
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Colgate
Posts:642
| | 07/30/2007 3:06 PM |
Alert | <div class='NTForums_Quote'>Posted By Cobblestone Guy on 07/30/2007 11:26 AM
I'm so sorry to hear that. Good luck in your endeavor. I'd offer to have my kids play with yours, but I'm not much in the mood to hear how evil I am. <img src='http://www.85239.com/desktopmodules/ntforums/images/emoticons/wink.gif' height='20' width='20' border='0' title='Wink' align='absmiddle'></div>
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JonAndAshly
Posts:236
| | 07/30/2007 3:39 PM |
Alert | I was being sarcastic guys! Dont get your panties in a bunch. No you are not all evil, my husband really is though. He convinced me to marry him and then 8 months later he pulls this crap. It didnt take two in this relationship, well I guess it did, him and his girlfriend <img src='http://www.85239.com/desktopmodules/ntforums/images/emoticons/smile.gif' height='20' width='20' border='0' title='Smile' align='absmiddle'>
Thanks Colgate, Maybe I will look into that. I am not usually one for groups but hey maybe it wouldnt hurt. | | | |
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anewman
Posts:670
| | 07/30/2007 3:59 PM |
Alert | Colgate- that is some pretty good advice.
Definetly seek out others that have been through a similar situation. It helped me going through mine and I have helped co-workers and friends that have gone through it since.
Some quick advice:
find people to talk to- it will help ease the pain if you can talk about it- it may be hard at first but it will help
Hire an Attorney- even if you think you can work things out on your own- have one for advice and legal counsel
Center Yourself- find out what type of person you want to be and move in that direction
Be Consistent- with your kids, with work, with friends- the more even keel you can be the better off you will be
Be Fair- it is hard to think this way but remember you are raising two kids- be fair to their dad with them- they will appreciate it later and you will be happy with yourself later
good luck- and once again welcome! | |
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anewman
Posts:670
| | 07/30/2007 4:00 PM |
Alert | Oh- yeah... I don't wear panties... they kept riding up!
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JonAndAshly
Posts:236
| | 07/30/2007 4:29 PM |
Alert | | Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it. | | | |
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Tjtellez9
Posts:228
| | 07/30/2007 5:20 PM |
Alert | jUST AN fyi NOT only are there alot of single mothers out here but also alot of good people.
Loads of young mothers with kids aged similarly to yours, and alot of single eligible men. I know of one if you really want the hookup
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JonAndAshly
Posts:236
| | 07/30/2007 6:06 PM |
Alert | | Thanks but I am not looking to meet any men right now. I want to take a good long break from men! | | | |
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Tjtellez9
Posts:228
| | 07/30/2007 6:09 PM |
Alert | | good for u | | | |
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demonica
Posts:850
| | 07/30/2007 6:26 PM |
Alert | | i am a mom-to-be and blissfully not single. i am engaged to marry the most wonderful man in the world. i tell you this not to make you feel bad, but rather because this is husband #3 for me. the first 2 were total losers. a fact i recognised almost immediately after marrying each of them. if you ever want to talk about how joey has completely restored my faith in men, i'm here. there are some good ones out there, ya know. | | | |
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Colgate
Posts:642
| | 07/30/2007 7:55 PM |
Alert | <div class='NTForums_Quote'>Posted By JonAndAshly on 07/30/2007 6:06 PM
Thanks but I am not looking to meet any men right now. I want to take a good long break from men! </div>
Good for you! Yes, you need the break, because until you heal from all that you are still going through, a relationship is the last thing you need. You need a clear mind for not only yourself, but especially the children. By the way, I went through 2 of the 13 week sessions of DC. If you find a group through a local church please PM me I might be interested in being a facilitator! | |
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JonAndAshly
Posts:236
| | 07/30/2007 8:01 PM |
Alert | | Well this is divorce #2 for me. Which is why I am so tired of men. I will never marry again. Thats not to say I wont fall in love again but I will never marry again. And will definitely take a good long break from even dating. I have never lived alone before and I am sort of looking forward to it. I can focus on the kids and what they need, then later when the time is right focus on what I need. Not to say I need a man to make me happy but I am sure at some point I may feel lonely. | | | |
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Colgate
Posts:642
| | 07/30/2007 9:45 PM |
Alert | <div class='NTForums_Quote'>Posted By JonAndAshly on 07/30/2007 8:01 PM
Well this is divorce #2 for me. Which is why I am so tired of men. I will never marry again. Thats not to say I wont fall in love again but I will never marry again. And will definitely take a good long break from even dating. I have never lived alone before and I am sort of looking forward to it. I can focus on the kids and what they need, then later when the time is right focus on what I need. Not to say I need a man to make me happy but I am sure at some point I may feel lonely. </div>
Well, mine too was divorce #2 and you will heal from it as well. My first I was young and my 2nd I had soooo much invested including a family. Time will heal. Just don't be too angry and bitter or it will stall the healing process! you don't have to forget, however, you need to forgive in order to have the bitterness subside! Good Luck and if you need someone to chat with about what your going through feel free to PM me! | |
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demonica
Posts:850
| | 07/31/2007 9:03 AM |
Alert | | if ya wanna hang out, i'm always up for that. | | | |
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