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cstormo88
Posts:11
 | | 10/23/2007 8:40 PM |
 Alert | I just have a question for everyone. I used to live in Rancho Elderado, and for some reason felt much safer living there, i guess being closer to town, having neighbors all around me....But now, i live in tortosa, and i have an empty house on one side of me and behind me, feel its so far out here, and my husband is out of town a lot with his job, i have one small child, and for the life of me I cant seem to sleep at night, im afraid, so i wonder, am i being crazy, or is tortosa safe?
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| | caveman
Posts:1081
| | 10/23/2007 8:53 PM |
Alert | | You are paranoid. What makes you scared? | | | |
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| | sarahc
Posts:631
| | 10/23/2007 9:37 PM |
Alert | I am out on 4 acres of land and I sometimes get scared and there is really nothing to be scared of so I kind of understand. I really don’t think my fear comes from my area I think its just me. I fixed my fear of dark sleepless nights buy investing in a REALLY GOOD alarm system on my house. If anyone were to get in I would know and that makes me feel better.
Do you have an alarm?
If not I would suggest one if only for your peace of mind.
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| | caveman
Posts:1081
| | 10/23/2007 10:29 PM |
Alert | | I suggest seeing a psychiatrist. I am not joking either. If you have unreasonable fears like that I would try to tackle it head on and get some help. | | | |
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| | njparks
Posts:201
| | 10/23/2007 10:54 PM |
Alert | Maybe you need a little dog. They don't sleep so soundly and would alert to weird noises.
I feel so safe out here. I used to live in S. Phoenix and really didn't feel threatened there, but this is like being in HEAVEN!
I have 3 little dogs...feel VERY safe.  | |
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| | Tempting Fait1
Posts:728
| | 10/24/2007 8:58 AM |
Alert | I lived on 10 acres 25 miles from town and our closest neighbor couldn't hear our alarm go off and when I was alone I was a bit uncomfortable, even with 2 dogs and an alarm (but police response time was 1-2 hours) so I feel much safer here.
A dog, an alarm and locking your back gate should help. You also might want to think about putting up some security lights, on motion sensors, in the back yard. It is pretty dark out here and I felt better when I just had landscaping lights put in.
Also, if you have gravel in your backyard, remember it is VERY difficult to walk on gravel without making noise, if someone was in your backyard you'd more then likely hear them long before they were able to get in. From what I hear police response time here is very good.
Do you know any of the neighbors? I know you said you had 2 empty houses around you but I'm sure there are others close by, just getting to know them may help ease your mind.
Keep a phone close by and heck, let your child sleep with you when your hubby is out of town. | |
The red head is BACK!! (and still mouthy)
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|  | sarahc
Posts:631
| | 10/24/2007 9:13 AM |
Alert | <div class='NTForums_Quote'>Posted By caveman on 10/23/2007 10:29 PM
I suggest seeing a psychiatrist. I am not joking either. If you have unreasonable fears like that I would try to tackle it head on and get some help.</div>
I don’t think you need a psychiatrist... unless you are scared all the time even while your husband is home or when you are out and about.
I think if you make a few changes you will feel alot better.
I totally understand being a woman alone with nothing around. Your fears are not unreasonable in my opinion. Don’t let this rule your life. Make a few adjustments so you feel secure and get a good nights sleep!
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| | charann
Posts:210
| | 10/24/2007 9:52 AM |
Alert | | Im a woman and I feel completely safe in Tortosa. Lets face it, no matter where you live, small town, big city, on 10 acres or in an apartment, things will happen. No one will ever be immune to issues, but the idea is not to let fear get the best of you. Personally, I feel safe. I also know that I know some neighbors in my area and Im sure they would have my back if something happened, meaning, they would let me know if they noticed someone strange eyeing my home or something. But you can't let the fear get the best of you. | | | |
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| | Rabbit
Posts:250
| | 10/24/2007 10:53 AM |
Alert | and my husband is out of town a lot with his job
get a boyfriend for when hes out of town? | |
"Sometimes I think you have to march right in and demand your rights, even if you don't know what your rights are, or who the person is you're talking to. Then on the way out, slam the door." | |
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| | cbjlovenest
Posts:104
| | 10/24/2007 11:19 AM |
Alert | I feel safe, definately, I dial 357 or 12 Guage for security. ;-)
I love that we have no neighbor on one side (its a spec right now) and my neighbors to the north of me are the Gila Indian Reservation residents. We got to hear coyotes playing and howling not less than 200 yards from our rear last Saturday. I do worry that its a bit quiet out there during the days, so security alarm takes care of that. At night personally I have never thought about it, I was out working (with a headlamp) until 12 or 1 am last night, never checked behind myself like I used to do constantly near the Mesa/Gilbert border, where we heard gun shots nightly, and watched the helicopters chasing down gangmembers up here from Mexico.
What I would suggest is picking up a dusk dawn switch for your outdoor lights, I just saw them at Frys the other day, you screw them in before your bulb and they will change them on when it gets dark. Pick up a light for the front and back that is motion sensitive for night, and have your old man install them, as well you should pick up some window locks (the type that you install the track of the window), you can even set them to allow the windows to be cracked without being opened, they will make a loud BANG if someone slides them and they hit the locks, get some decorative chimes or bells and put them on the main access doors. And pick up a snub nose .38 for your night stand.
You should began to instead feel impowered that you are in charge of the fort when your man is travelling. I know mine keeps the pistol near her anytime she is home alone, a habit she got into dealing with the above mentioned problems near our neighborhood. If you feel unsafe take control of your situation, there are just too many things you can do to make yourself actually safe. Security gate, door latches (in addition to door locks), security monitoring (even when you are home), a big growling dog, the worst thing you can do is just to "feel" safe because you have neighbors near bye, my experience is most of them hide in their houses until the police show up to collect the bodies next door. | | | |
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| | Tempting Fait1
Posts:728
| | 10/24/2007 12:14 PM |
Alert | | Why didn't I think of the security screen?? I LOVE mine, night and day!! It's nice to be able to open the front door for a breeze (I leave my front door open most nights when it's nice out). It's even nicer to open the front door when the door bell rings and know that whoever it is isn't going to be able to just walk in, it also helps with keeping the dog inside and would help with kids if I had any. | |
The red head is BACK!! (and still mouthy)
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| | AuntieAnn
Posts:213
| | 10/24/2007 12:15 PM |
Alert | While I agree with the above statement about taking your safety in your own hands; I really don't think a gun sounds right for you I have a security door on the front, alarm system, dog and window locks. I have never felt safer in my life. You will do just fine out here. | | | |
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| | Fritzydoodle
Posts:980
| | 10/24/2007 1:34 PM |
Alert | I've lived a couple of miles from you for the past 23 years. We've never had issues. But I do understand the fear factor. For a long time I was terrified of being home at night. An irrational fear of the dark! I knew I'd have to tackle it when I started transferring my phobia to the kids.
I agree with the dog, security doors, motion lights, window locks and alarm system. I disagree with a handgun with a small child. I prefer a shotgun with small children around. Much harder for them to have an accident, especially if it's a pump action. Even if a round is chambered, you still have to re-cock it. And you can't shoot yourself easily if its a shotgun. And the other reason - if you do need to use it - the pellets do not travel through the walls. A 357 round or whatever, will penetrate walls - potentially striking whomever is on the other side.
For the most part - the area is as quiet crimewise as any other. | |
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| | hendersona
Posts:397
| | 10/24/2007 2:13 PM |
Alert | | get to know your nabjors | | | |
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| | karen
Posts:0
| | 10/25/2007 4:48 PM |
Alert | | Ive never felt more safe anywhere that i've lived than I do here in tortosa | | | |
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| | cbjlovenest
Posts:104
| | 10/25/2007 5:36 PM |
Alert | Just wanted to give an update from my perspective.
I always call my spouse as I am arriving to work to let her know that I am here safe, occasionally she doesnt answer, and when we lived on the gilbert/mesa border that usually brought thoughts of various gang and other scarry things that could have affected her.
Today, for the first time, it simply made me thought that she probably wasnt getting good reception or was in another room where she couldnt hear the phone, just one of the many things that I have felt safer about since moving here. | | | |
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| | cstormo88
Posts:11
| | 10/25/2007 8:35 PM |
Alert | Well thank you all. I used to live in the chander area that was alway's alive with police, and we had a few break in's in the neighborhood. Guess I just have not gotten used to the fact that I live in a safe neighborhood, but its hard when its just me, my 2 year old son, and a 4000 square foot house alone for weeks at a time hehe Maybe i am just lonely, and the quiet at night makes me hear every little noise is all! but again, thanks, just hearing everyone discuss this does make me feel safer. I am going to install some motion lights, and have been looking for a little dog, if nothing else for a noise maker hehe
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| | AuntieAnn
Posts:213
| | 10/30/2007 7:13 PM |
Alert | | Darling, I PM'ed you. | | | |
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